It is a common occurrence at our house. From a distance, you hear the scream of a child. It is not the fake cry that is trying to get attention. It is the full-blown, something is wrong kind of scream. Every parent knows it.
The task at hand gets dropped and you go find the child. Either the bike got away from them, they ran to fast, or any number of mishaps. There is a scraped elbow, knee, or hand.
We all know the process.
Wash it off. Make sure it is clean. Put some Neosporin on it. Get a bandaid, preferably with a cartoon character. This is simple. Everyone knows the drill.
But kids freak out when you try to wash it off. They will cry, get angry, and throw fits for hours if you let them protesting touching their booboo.
If left alone, my kids would never clean even one scrape. They would avoid the temporary pain if they could. I have no doubt, left to their own devices they would have had some serious infections because they wouldn’t take 30 seconds of being uncomfortable to get it clean.
This happens all the times for adults as well. Except the scrapes are emotional hurts that we will not deal with; An unkind word that sinks deep into your soul, betrayal of a close friend, or a promotion you missed.
Our first step is not to deal with the pain, but rather react with protest.
As adults our protest are not a fit with screaming and crying on the outside, it is an inward disgust that shows itself as anger and bitterness.
So how do you avoid this?
1. Run to God.
This is the answer we all know but rarely do. If you have been hurt make it a priority to get alone with God as quick as you can.
We are all wired differently, but for me this is usually early in the morning with a journal. By the morning time, I usually have perspective on what ever is bothering me. The sting has worn off and I am just processing it.
2. Seek Comfort Don’t Waste away in Complaints
You can go to God complaining, making sure God knows why someone or something is wrong. Or, You can approach his throne confiding in him about how hurt you are and seeking strength and guidance.
God is big enough to handle either one, but he specializes in helping the hurting and giving strength to those who are weak.
3. Strengthen Yourself with Scripture
Don’t just pray and pour you heart out to God. Turn to his word for sure footing to stand on.
If you don’t know what scripture to read, google it. Seriously.
If you have been betrayed, google, “betrayal Psalm” If you are disappointed, google “disappointment psalm”. If you are overwhelmed, google “overwhelmed psalm”.
Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Just get in the scripture. You will need it right then and as you walk through the situation
God can fix your broken heart.
I know it stings when you get hurt, but if you will just calm down for a second and let God wash over your hurt, you might just find that his love and grace can fill the cracks of your broken heart.
Just try it.